Justin’s Story: A Husband’s Role in Addressing Postpartum Depression
Justin, like many first-time fathers, was excited about becoming a dad. He had heard of postpartum depression but, as he candidly admits, “I had no idea what postpartum depression was. I knew that it existed. I’d heard the term. I did not know what the symptoms were, and no one had encouraged me to look them up.” Read how Justin became an advocate for mental health and the husband’s role in addressing postpartum depression (PPD).
Recognizing the Signs
With their first child, Justin thought the darkness his wife, Kristen, was experiencing was just baby blues. Looking back, he realizes it was likely symptoms of PPD. As the weeks passed after their second child’s birth, Justin began to notice changes in his Kristen’s behavior. “Beyond two weeks, if they’re still feeling these ways, if they’re not showing up to the activities they used to enjoy, if they’re not eating the foods they used to love, they’re not spending time with the people that you still spend time with, then it’s a problem,” Justin reflects.
His observations led to a pivotal moment – the decision to have a conversation about seeking help. Justin approached this delicately, telling Kristen, “I think your emotions are real and I think they’re justified. I think they’re bigger than I would expect them to be based on what I’m seeing and talking about with my friends and their partners.”
The Path to Diagnosis and Treatment
Justin’s supportive approach played a crucial role in his wife’s journey to diagnosis and treatment. He volunteered to see a psychiatrist first, breaking the ice and making it easier for his wife to seek help. This act of solidarity demonstrates the important role partners can play in addressing mental health concerns.
When his wife was diagnosed with PPD, there was a mix of relief and shame. However, as they began to open up about their experience, they discovered they weren’t alone. “She was talking to other women who were opening up to her suddenly saying, ‘Oh, yeah, I’m on medication as well,'” Justin shares.
Breaking the Silence
This experience led Justin to become a vocal advocate for PPD awareness. Justin started a TikTok account (@drumbeatlane) where he discusses PPD and other parenting issues, amassing 92,000 followers and nearly 4 million likes. “We hide the dark parts of parenting,” Justin says, explaining his motivation to share openly.
Their story highlights the power of shared experiences and the importance of breaking the silence around mental health issues in parenting. By speaking out, they’re helping to normalize conversations about PPD and encouraging others to seek help when needed.
The Husband’s Role in Addressing Postpartum Depression: 4 Lessons
Justin’s journey offers valuable lessons for other parents and partners.
- Knowledge is power: Understanding the signs and symptoms of PPD before the baby arrives can make a significant difference.
- Open communication is crucial: Having honest, non-judgmental conversations about mental health can pave the way for early intervention.
- Support goes a long way: Partners play a vital role in making mom feel comfortable talking about her emotions and seeking help. They can take on a larger share of household duties so mom can focus on getting better.
- Sharing experiences helps: By opening up about their struggles, parents can find support and help others feel less alone.
Moving Forward
Justin and Kristen’s story is a powerful reminder of the challenges that can come with parenthood, but also of the strength found in facing these challenges together. Justin reminds us “the hero of any story about PPD is the mother facing the symptoms while working extra hard to nurture the newest and most needy member of the family. Partners have the honor of supporting and advocating for these incredible parents who face battles they never imagined when they first dreamed of becoming mothers.”
As we continue to have these important conversations, we create a more supportive environment for all parents. Remember, if you or someone you know might be experiencing postpartum depression, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. We encourage you or your loved one to take a screening to see if a risk for PPD exists.